Ten years ago she was his lover, and his stand to face his wife; years later, she is his wife, standing opposite him and his lover. How ironic role change, ah, is retribution Or fate? Or just because, unfortunately, she met a man accustomed to derailment.
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clear (a pseudonym) telephone call to reporters, but also laughing and crying, she that my experience with you how to write a similar example of such ah. Xu Xu her on the phone speaking for nearly an hour, her love, her pain, her ignorance and now awakening. Finally a reporter suggested that we meet s talk.
starts in my imagination, because her husband for divorce derailed and sunny, much like Desperate Housewives. But, she appeared in front of me, it seems it is so young and beautiful, wearing a white wire woven embroidered cap, big eyes, skinny chin, she spoke the tears to flow down. spotlessly clean look people could not bear to blame. Why should we have the beating of a painful price in exchange for a woman to grow up? Fortunately, as long as they wake up to not too late.
1 I became his lover
10 years ago, I have not graduated from college, two long braids hanging, pressing youth.
Zouping ( his real name) is my senior, third taller than me, then had graduated. On one occasion he was invited back to school for a lesson on marketing,UGGs, we just know each other. Zouping later told me, he told me was love at first sight, there will be a beginning idea. but then again I was alone, however, feelings are quite slow, and he pursued for a long time, I have perceived, and to give response. Similarly, we have a good time together After Zouping told me that he was married. I was completely stunned, sometimes at a loss, will not know how to do.
Zouping told me that his wife, older than he is a very good and competent woman, upset at the poor with his life in Chongqing, and another man had ambiguous, the divorce was going to go with the man in Guangdong. Zouping said that since his wife's affair, he was standing divorce critical juncture, at this difficult time, wish I could stay with him in his side to face times of trouble. I was totally impressed by his truth, despite all the relatives and friends of the opposition, he took out with him. or when young, with a total think they can save a man, or to change his.
Zouping wife soon learned the things I told him, she not only went to the trouble of Zouping units, also was referred to my school. a moment talk of the town, the Department of the teacher I went looking for conversation, the students have pointed at the back, poking, I was as a seductive woman, her husband is a grab someone else's immoral woman.
pleased me most was that, faced with his aggressive wife, Zouping very firm stance to protect my standing by my side. In this case, I think I will inevitably leave him unable to escape lightly, we have to fight side by side, to the future forever.
self-evaluation: also not well prepared to begin a relationship, 逞匹夫之勇, the original is not the responsibility of taking on their own their own body.
reporter Evaluation: When a man in front of you Tongsu revolutionary history and say that is a divorce, be sure to keep your eyes open. a lot of women involved in another marriage, when the start was always confused by the words of men, that is how his marriage is not worth retaining, so with a messianic complex, paranoia the man to save untold miseries. do not know the existence of a marriage, there is always its own context, its own origins, or is itself a betrayal of the man reading the potential marriage, but not because of how much I love you.
2 to the sense of the word from the lover's wife
as his lover the day dragged on year and a half.
year and a half down, I was physically and mentally fatigued. When he finally goes to the green in front of me a divorce certificate, I should not even pleasantly surprised. We too want things, we pursued the things, once, even completely without feeling.
when I saw him sitting alone in the room was emptied, I do not understand What is a man tortured able to look into this. I embrace his head gently in his arms, secretly vowed with him through life, do not let the same thing hurt him.
I became He justifiably wife.
started together, we are almost nothing. the house is rented, not even TV, watch the news to run the streets hand in hand, watching the TV in the window what to put. If you are lucky, can see some romantic pieces. We had fun inside as if it were the male and female happiness is our own.
so together, and now nearly 10 years .10 years, his position be promoted, always busy, I am also very understanding. For his career, and we have not even to children. be content with our two world day to day by day too so.
remember this last year time, also in December, Zouping a business trip, a cold winter night he sent a text message received: wife, you are my favorite people in this life. my heart is so sweet. have been reluctant to remove the retained piece of text messages until finally we divorced.
self-evaluation: without careful thought about marriage is not a problem, this is where my negligence. every time they meet him busy, I always find excuses for him himself, I wishfully that our marriage impregnable.
news rating: seized political power, easy to take the country hard, the same is true of marriage. But women are always very good at their own will to look good marriage, do not want to or deliberately ignoring the truth of marriage, perhaps, contradictions early in the time you think of happiness in the side quietly watching for a.
3 he and his lover stand
February of this year, my grandmother passed away. She is my most important family, that time I am sad stricken.
then I often reflect on their own, is not that time because I was too immersed in their own emotional distress that her husband left out? no matter what the real reason, that time seems to be extraordinarily Zouping busy, even the grandmother, indeed there is a credential, he just did not tell me who travel with him, and his lover. was a very long time, that I could not help this place Beibei disgust and fear.
the grief of the loss of grandmother being, I did not find changes in his own marriage has taken place. or I had a very careless person, obviously there are various signs, as long as he has not personally told me that I will not believe anyway. that in Zouping this derailment, I became the last one informed person. but we have promised it, as long as one party does not love, or love someone else, we must first speak out, do not hide each other. He forgot our convention, But I still remember.
was already a baseless rumor, and said he was recruited in January this year, when the hands move into a girl, they are very close, often travel together. For all the rumors, I have a word do not believe, not at all mind, because we agreed that if it was true, he will tell me.
I stubbornly do not believe our marriage is really a breach occurred, until one day I was on the street a hit.
day I came out from the hospital to the hospital door, I saw a girl with Zouping and. so young a girl, 20 newly hatched first look, extra baggage, not the United States, but youth is compelling, as newly born when I met him. fair to say that she did not I am beautiful, all so that even Zouping later acknowledged. she does not I am beautiful, if the young is an advantage, then it is her before me, the only advantage. I noticed she had a pair of very restless eyes.
the beginning they did not notice that I, that girl is very proud of the way your head held high, my dear husband when she was young Little face next to the gentle and humble in her face slightly stoop, like a little submissive. I walked up to greet them, and even, I smiled. Zouping a little panic, and the girl is still head held high, haughty, dismissive to peered askance me. Yes, you are young, I would like to ask her, you will always be so young Why?
Zouping a little panic, but stood by her side from beginning to end, just like 10 years ago,UGG bailey button, he start to finish station beside me, when I told her now more like ah; and then, I am now at the table, stood his ex-wife. Since when, I come from him and his opposite ?
self-evaluation: first, the marriage itself is a problem, but we did not find time, attention and treatment, so that this problem like the snowball getting bigger, the girl just happened to become a contradiction in our marriage a fuse.
reporter Evaluation: Since the divorce, he can not stand by your side when, justifiably betrayed his marriage; then the same situation may happen again, but for the leading role. In some cases, the formation of a man betrayed the marriage of inertia, let's call them
Ever since I crashed through, Zouping sense of the word began to stay late, do not even go home. We started a separation.
he consistently denied that their relationship, saying I'm paranoid, said that it was my paranoia led to the woman children in their units to be baseless rumor on the difficulties. He reminds me of her protection years ago, he cares for me. In fact, they are things that I did not take any action. I still need to maintain their most basic dignity.
Zouping let me go home late and not distracted, and sometimes I simply went back to their parents to live at home, he often went to my parents house late at night came to me and asked me to go back and open the door. He began to tell me something without incident Bark, and often at night, deliberately disturbing neighbors so much noise. I cope with their about to be tortured mad.
I asked him in the end to what, if you want a divorce, I do not have the slightest hesitation, I said I would not like your ex-wife as the year dragged on a year or so, no sense, first of all I myself too much. he did not speak. this selfish man, I'll have to make even a divorce.
have One day, the family received a phone reminder letters, registered his name, phone number, but it is the girl. I knew, that he bought her card number, and time is before my grandmother passed away . had they would have together. evidence, I finally can no longer delude ourselves that everything does not exist. I filed for divorce.
I remember the day the divorce is August 23, How hot is no match in Chongqing, But in my heart, just felt a burst of cold. waiting to take photos, I propose to sit near the KFC, a cup of hot juice. until the divorce certificate, get our hands on, we did not talk. even if the end when that green finally into the hands of the books, I have been numb. to leave, we walked side by side, he suddenly took my hand, I was surprised to find that he actually crying. I said to smile, do not cry, others see, I thought I bully you.
home to collect her things, that the process of sad exception, when I was suddenly want to cry, said we had a lifetime together, how could not count.
best to deepen my frustration, is to insult the girl actually called me. I have already Zouping divorced, I did not find her any trouble, she actually called her door and said: But you know why you than me? Indeed, You are prettier than me, but what's the use? Do you still like the man is me, not you, him in front of me like a dog the same. He was old and ugly, I do not have to send me it.
I was shocked into silence, I love holding my heart in the hands of men, abandoned by her so assumed such as shelter, rob her, why should it? breathed so I want to scold back, she has hung up the phone, and off the computer. I think it was just as I would like to keep my demeanor.
self-evaluation: What may be retribution somewhere, because this man that I won from another over a period of marriage, destined to be killed the same way.
reporters rating: decisively divorced him to do is clear the most correct thing, its pointless to retain such a man is not worthy of retention, withdraw as soon as possible. This species of the prodigal son again and again betrayed the marriage, not your good intentions can make him hold back the.
5
he was soon abandoned lover heard that they broke up. that girl has been a formal cohabitation boyfriend, with his only affair, now openly dumped him. Many friends told me that you want to know the girl who Zouping in how much money? I shook my head and said do not want to, I said: It is not important.
difficult divorce when he was in the moment, have my face with him; development to the present, the same situation, but do not want to like the girl I had so stupid, she would not even to accompany him through this difficult time. Perhaps it's the young girl smart than we were young is much more powerful but also much more.
Zouping said she is not no place like you from start to finish. I said Why are you willing to choose her? Confused, he said: Perhaps it is not the status quo.
Zouping dumped to hear the news, friends say I should be happy, should celebrate, but I was still not happy . he did not say I'll be better off leaving it? Is this what he called a better life?
Zouping also some things I there, I had time to prepare all the cleaning out, packing, looking for someone to He sent. After all, a husband and wife really wanted me to pull off all the things to throw him out, I Henbuxiaxin.
dialogue
Reporter: If you remarry Zouping come back, you will tell him and okay?
clear: No, we can not go back over. Now I have lost the most basic of his trust, and its last remaining memories of the tortured are fragmented, it is better to take this opportunity to retain that elegant demeanor. Besides, I'm finally completely out, I can live better, why go back to the old road.
Reporter: Do you think the question whether your marriage went wrong?
clear: the original We are like two completely overlapping circle, did not give each other a little space, but it has become the shadow of a coincidence.
host Notes
10 years ago, desperate to gain happiness, finally someone else after 10 years wins with a more vicious way in the past, and abandoning such as shelter shoe. Valentine's positive, really is a kind of happiness worth snatching up?
been to a third party appears clear that her marriage was a problem . But that problem has long been lurking in the decade before the fact. Even if a man keeps love you, as long as he is still in the marriage among the body as long as he is not free, then advise you do not take it seriously. This is not the sanctity of marriage When the same thing man, this betrayal of a marriage, throw away old clothes, like men, even if ultimately to marry you, he can still make the same mistakes do not take your marriage seriously. this thin love, the foundation had not steady, even after 10 years of cultivation, or had been trampled out easily.
woman always easy as the wife of the imaginary men, think they can beat the intervention of the wife that the woman, but this victory in addition to can cause a man's self-expansion other than him no good.
good news is entirely clear from the failure of the marriage came out, she said, because no alternative but to decide to be strong. Whatever the reason, as long as the end result is Let us stronger and independent, then after a few things to get a lesson, after all worth it. hope to soon be really clear of her own happiness.
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